This!!!
ADHD is unfortunately named based on misunderstanding of the prefrontal cortex. It is executive function disorder. Similar behaviors occur from prefrontal cortex trauma. Barkley notes that ADHD stays so named because it is tied legally to entitlements.
Thanks, also had this discussion with a colleague (obviously not having ADHD) who thought he understands what I’m (having ADHD diagnosed) talking about and I argue he does not.
I then almost started to doubt my own perception abilities InsertHugeFacepalmHere
If you ever forget or wonder if you have ADHD vs being inattentive, just look back at its affects on your romantic relationships and how much it damaged them or made them more difficult.
How often a partner probably told you that they felt neglected or forgotten, or how often you'd wind up in a rabbit hole and forget that you also have to nourish that relationship.
Oof. This hits close to home. I have ADHD and my partner recently ended a four-year relationship for several reasons but feeling neglected and like she had to fight to get my attention was one of them. We didn't consciously realize this was a major problem until it was too late. And now reading this thread I'm realizing wow yeah I really wasn't doing a good job of paying attention to her and her needs even though I cared a lot about her, now this is something to be aware of and put effort into changing in my next relationship.
It's something that I unfortunately didn't put 2+2 together until my 30s after ruining quite a few and always wondering why I would be so enamored with someone and they never felt like I was giving them enough.
And my most recent ex was anxious attached. That was rough. I'm far more on the avoidant side, not sure how much of that is upbringing vs adhd.
There's a bunch of books about marriage/relationships with ADHD people. I haven't read any but I should. The lady in this video has written a bunch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9pyAfOPGKlI&t=1s
I signed up to their newsletter and instantly got a mail saying "Dear John, we have shipped your DIY kit... " with a very shady link to "track my package". What just happened here ??
Thanks for pointing this out. It seems we linked it to the wrong form (we have one internal one when we actually ship the kits)! Will fix this immediately.
Wow, I have the same issue that you describe with the dentist appointment thing, but it's the first time I hear someone else describe it.
I'm certain I have ADHD, I'm a few months away from professional diagnostic
No problem! It depresses me that something so recent, so... open and easily accessible (literally a click away) is so misunderstood, what hope do we have of countering misinformation on a larger scale, if even the nerdy techy folks of HN can't be bother do counter misinformation.
It doesn't have to be pro or anti musk, you just have to look at the facts
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I was just on Twitter DM (magic of technology, you can just talk to a rando person a thousand mile away now!) with the Thai journalist (@thanr) who had been reporting on site on behalf of the BBC or some other press, and he told me there are so many other facts not publicly know, like the scope of the cooperation between Musk, The State Dept, The American Embassy in Thailand and the Thai government. I've requested him to perhaps write some article or a book or something to detail those.
it's understandable if not knowing those not easily google-able facts were perhaps the cause of the confusion. But not doing a simple tweet search? The man is a prolific tweeter, why not just... go read what he said, and make your opinion on that? Good, Bad whatever, but atleast you should be fully informed.
neither Musk nor Vernon come clean out of this mess, but atleast there is some clarity to be gained.
