You must be superhumanly bad at using this class of tool. They work pretty well for troubleshooting, and can be told to share their sources. This has allowed me to fix all sorts of issues I wouldn't have been able to without 50+ minutes of searching.
:( Your notes are probably more fun to read than the generic AI voice. Your actual notes are fun, but seeing the ~extra cruft from an AI writer in every line irritated me enough to quit before the end.
You say "half of the posters here" are doing this, and a sibling comment claims the majority are guilty, but I don't see it scrolling up and down this comment section. Seems like the mods and the [flag] feature keep things cleaner than I've seen on just about any other forum this large.
Not the impression I am getting. A quick look shows quite a lot of pent up resentment and indignation. As of this moment:
- Most upvoted comment with 155 posts under it claims that men's poor mental health stems from unfair divorce laws. As always, there's a subthread with fearmongering about being unwittingly trapped in a common law marriage.
- Second highest rated one goes on about the usual drivel about men being villainised and dehumanised in the media.
- Fourth highest rated starts with "This is a trap, just like it’s a trap when my wife asks me what’s wrong"
I rest my case. People in the comments here aren't alright.
1) Yeah, we should probably have both sets of data, but seeing this in any subset is alarming
2) Yeah, that sucks
3) Scouting is still around! As an Eagle Scout, I don't think the issue is that girls can be in Scouts now.
I wished there were (separate) girl troops when I was in it, and was part of an Explorers troop (BSA subtype with men and women, 18–21, affiliated typically with a fire station, police station, or hospital). Men and women can learn the skills that Scouting teaches together, but you need community members to help support the troop.
I hope all of my kids are in Scouting one day, because it helped me without hurting me, but the door is wide open and plenty of people aren't walking through.
Per your note on point #1, one thing we need is good data, but I'd say the other thing we need is to support our friends in getting off the couch and hanging out. Check in on the people you haven't heard from for a while. I have reached out to men I knew from college several times to get lunch or dinner and learned they don't have a good social network. The modern world gives us so many amazing opportunities, but a lot of them are hard or scary to take advantage of alone. Go grab some friends and work through them together. It won't fix everything, but it'll fix some things.
This isn't really the case! And, FWIW, it is neither true that monogamy is some clever invention nor that many women are meaningfully hypergamous. In all the high-quality data I see, women are just single more just as men are, they just don't talk about it as much in places you or I read (it seems like psychometrics implies the median woman is more okay with being single than the median man. Part of it could be that).
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