Personal thoughts: Perhaps some of the people offering you unconditional kindness are doing so from a position of emotional wellbeing. They offer their kindness in the hope that you use their kindness as a model to find your own wellbeing. There is an unspoken hope, that one day you will be strong enough to be unconditionally kind to others.

It’s a pay-it-forward kind of model. And if you choose to you can absolutely “earn” (or at least repay) every bit of kindness that’s offered to you. By stepping up and also being kind to others in need.