I don't think that your definition of American discourse is totally accurate- it's definitely true that happens, but not everywhere in the US.

One of the things that has made me better has been people who were willing to tell me "please stop", "you seriously screwed up", and "good job"- but if you listen to the wrong people, you won't get anywhere.

Fram seems like one of those people that's actually worth listening to, and that his criticism and praise have some merit.