It was quite similar for me. Scott Wlaschin's Railway Oriented Programming and its other articles on its site (and in particular https://fsharpforfunandprofit.com/series/map-and-bind-and-ap...) helped me greatly too. I liked its idea of an "elevated world". Another helpful source was/is https://wiki.haskell.org/All_About_Monads. But I thought a lot about them for the past few years. I tried also to make a detour through category theory but it did not help except for getting a lot of books in my library.

Another helpful article was Philip Wadler's "Monads for Functional Programming" (http://homepages.inf.ed.ac.uk/wadler/papers/marktoberdorf/ba...).