I think what you describe is not uncommon among high achievers (especially younger ones like you); and a lot of times, some combination of aging and significant life events can help one take a step back and see bigger pictures in life. For myself, it was probably a combination of quitting the company where I made my most significant professional contribution and leap upwards (where I spent several years, went from Engineer to Architect, and earned a significant portion of my current wealth; a period of time in my life where the career was my identity), as well as various life events (getting married, having a kid, etc.) that helped me step back, gradually over time, and see bigger pictures and adjust my perspectives on most things in life (work included).
In our lives we're often shown examples of people who've made big jumps in changing their lives, but smaller steps are possible too. For example, you don't necessarily have to quit your job to fix this. You can look into switching teams or roles within the company. You can even have a talk with your manager and gradually move out of some responsibilities. Perhaps you'd have to be okay with change in career trajectory in the company, if you do such a talk. The point is, the action you take doesn't have to be drastic. Small steps can help over time.
> significant life events can help one take a step back and see bigger pictures in life.
I still get anxious some days. But nothing close to before a family member was diagnosed with cancer. Of course, everyone has their own response to these things, but for me the response was to realize how unimportant work is to me in the bigger picture.
Trying to meet project deadlines while going through that time in my life is something I don't ever want to deal with again. I almost lost it, and ended up emerging stronger than before.
In our lives we're often shown examples of people who've made big jumps in changing their lives, but smaller steps are possible too. For example, you don't necessarily have to quit your job to fix this. You can look into switching teams or roles within the company. You can even have a talk with your manager and gradually move out of some responsibilities. Perhaps you'd have to be okay with change in career trajectory in the company, if you do such a talk. The point is, the action you take doesn't have to be drastic. Small steps can help over time.