Ask yourself, what's the bigger trauma for you. Your partner dies of COVID-19, you can't see your parents for a year.

COVID is not a death sentence for the majority of people that get it.

Neither is the lockdown

Lockdowns cause suffering even if they're not a death sentence.

That's a non question, as if you could have prevented the majority of people from dying of it, lockdowns were about "flattening the curve" they weren't even saving the majority of lives (maybe some) at an incommensurable social cost.