So my father-in-law passed away from dementia recently so I've been thinking about this a lot. Some family members could not be arsed (to borrow a phrase) to really care for him over the last several years, and from their viewpoint he was a burden. Some could, though, and to them he wasn't a burden, but a way to express their love. And looking back his long decline of course had a negative effect on a lot of people, but I don't know if it would have been any less negative had he put a bullet in his brain 5 years ago.
My dad is going through the same thing right now with Lewy Body Dementia and it's terrible. I've seen enough to know that if it shows up in me, I'm outta here. It might be hard on my family, but I'm not going to endure years of decline where most days I'm terrified from hallucinations which leads to violent outbursts directed at the people trying to help me.
