Listen , take my words with a grain of salt because I admittedly waste a LOT of time .
But from what I've heard from great people / self help books in general is that
Getting bored isn't bad. I think you need to get bored sometimes to fetch back to your default.
Are we humans to not get bored or are we not bored / constantly stimulated / this drive towards higher and higher satisfaction that makes us human?
My brother used to joke that we should have some device that just injects the maximum amount of pleasure possible (like drugs) , I was like uhh that makes them unproductive and he was like : what is productivity to individual if he isn't happy?
Though I wonder if happiness and satisfaction are same. Satisfaction feels chemical , happiness feels spiritual.
Blaming phones isn't a distraction. I use a dumb phone and it didn't even had songs till yesterday (had no sd card , read my other comment)
And I had to constantly spend 3 - 4 hours 3 days per week in car travel. Guess what? I like to look at visuals and maybe reading book (though it gets vomit-y , I am going to now listen to AUDIOBOOKs , it's so fun!) , and maybe interacting with other human beings. I love dumb phones. I am seriously thinking of never buying a smartphone
But I don't know , like if I get stuck on a study question or on a programming question. I actually feel like my breaths get short and I get anxious and it feels clumsy (like the world is falling bit by bit)
The best way to describe it would be the box getting shorter and you are trapped in it ("stuck")
So I personally really hate getting stuck but I am okay with getting bored since then I can play with my own (thoughts?)
The most unpleasant "stuck" feelings I get tend to be associated with learning something that's new (could be a musical technique, a new codebase, etc.). At age 42, I now try to treat that feeling as a positive - it means I'm stretching my brain / body in ways I haven't done before.
I think the advice for that situation would be to "sit with it"; through exposure gradually reduce your automatic response to that situation and become calmer about it. Easier said than done of course.
But from what I've heard from great people / self help books in general is that
Getting bored isn't bad. I think you need to get bored sometimes to fetch back to your default.
Are we humans to not get bored or are we not bored / constantly stimulated / this drive towards higher and higher satisfaction that makes us human?
My brother used to joke that we should have some device that just injects the maximum amount of pleasure possible (like drugs) , I was like uhh that makes them unproductive and he was like : what is productivity to individual if he isn't happy?
Though I wonder if happiness and satisfaction are same. Satisfaction feels chemical , happiness feels spiritual.
Blaming phones isn't a distraction. I use a dumb phone and it didn't even had songs till yesterday (had no sd card , read my other comment)
And I had to constantly spend 3 - 4 hours 3 days per week in car travel. Guess what? I like to look at visuals and maybe reading book (though it gets vomit-y , I am going to now listen to AUDIOBOOKs , it's so fun!) , and maybe interacting with other human beings. I love dumb phones. I am seriously thinking of never buying a smartphone