So I'm of an age with you, and I broadly agree, but I think we can't entirely discount survivor bias, and the sweeping under the carpet of a lot of stuff that people would rather pretend didn't happen, or were glad when it no longer had to.
Case in point - the link between app dating, #MeToo, and the redefinition of sexual harassment/misconduct to incorporate pretty much any sexualised behaviour in the workplace.
Essentially the existence of apps made it _possible_ to redraw boundaries. Something a lot of women were keen to do, having put up with all manner of crap for years - and having listened to their stories, decent men mostly went along with it. Before apps - which carved out a dedicated space for seeking romantic partners - I don't think that would have been the case.
1990 is 35 years ago now, and if you look 35 years prior to that, you're in buttoned-up, conservative 1955. So maybe we GenX were fortunate (or for some, not so much) to live in more morally liberated times, where this stuff could exist in the public sphere before the Weinsteins, Tates and PUAs came along and ruined it all.
As to stuff being swept under the carpet - the allegations against roughly 80% of 90s rock titans, plus film moguls and so on - most women will tell you that's just the tip of the iceberg, so maybe we were overdue for the pendulum to swing the other way.
Like I say, I agree with you about the spirit of things, but equally, well, maybe our definition of sexy belongs to its time, just as prior generations had a different view on all that.
Case in point - the link between app dating, #MeToo, and the redefinition of sexual harassment/misconduct to incorporate pretty much any sexualised behaviour in the workplace.
Essentially the existence of apps made it _possible_ to redraw boundaries. Something a lot of women were keen to do, having put up with all manner of crap for years - and having listened to their stories, decent men mostly went along with it. Before apps - which carved out a dedicated space for seeking romantic partners - I don't think that would have been the case.
1990 is 35 years ago now, and if you look 35 years prior to that, you're in buttoned-up, conservative 1955. So maybe we GenX were fortunate (or for some, not so much) to live in more morally liberated times, where this stuff could exist in the public sphere before the Weinsteins, Tates and PUAs came along and ruined it all.
As to stuff being swept under the carpet - the allegations against roughly 80% of 90s rock titans, plus film moguls and so on - most women will tell you that's just the tip of the iceberg, so maybe we were overdue for the pendulum to swing the other way.
Like I say, I agree with you about the spirit of things, but equally, well, maybe our definition of sexy belongs to its time, just as prior generations had a different view on all that.