When I was teenager (more years than I want to count) my mum went to Uni to do social science since I was a computer geek and she very much wasn't (and isn't) she used to write her essays longhand and I'd type them up for her/proof read them and I'd read her books if they seemed interesting - so much of what came up in those books was applicable to been an effective manager later - Framing as a concept goes back the 70's (it's older than me :D)
> make it "OK, how do we solve this together"
excellent framing! a big fan of "pair coding" or "synchronous code reviews" when we catch this signal
thanks for sharing!