I only skimmed this exchange, and I have no dog in this fight, but you should be aware -- you seem to be the only one using obscenities, and you started this exchange with "Sorry, but this is a load of disgusting hogwash".
None of these comments are very friendly-feeling to me (on either side... you're both obviously feeling defensive), but if you start the exchange with that kind of comment, you're the first to deploy obscenities, you're more actively insulting, etc., you can't really claim the higher ground at the end.
I hope this is useful... it's hard to discuss these kinds of things, but if you can manage it (without getting tangled up in attack/counterattack) it can be rewarding.
It's been a personal goal of mine to get to the point where I never say something online that I wouldn't say in person, and so far I've made a lot of progress, but it looks like the next step is to never use obscenities.
So, you're right, thank you, and that is helpful.
I strongly disagree that I was more actively insulting. I think a detailed reading of the conversation speaks for itself on this.
None of these comments are very friendly-feeling to me (on either side... you're both obviously feeling defensive), but if you start the exchange with that kind of comment, you're the first to deploy obscenities, you're more actively insulting, etc., you can't really claim the higher ground at the end.
I hope this is useful... it's hard to discuss these kinds of things, but if you can manage it (without getting tangled up in attack/counterattack) it can be rewarding.