maybe I had a flaw in my logic. I was trying to say that if you treat people according to your behavioral preferences (in my case, driving and task focused) then there is a good chance you will actually be introducing tension into the relationship - if they have a different style.
The golden rule is great for matters of ethics (i.e. I shouldn't steal from you), but it can cause tension when we discuss communication behaviors.
This concept shows up in a few books and was made popular by Tony Alessandra.
I think the difference is that while the Golden Rule deals with actions (equatable to "hard skills"), the Platinum Rule deals with behaviors (equatable to "soft skills"). The latter does not say "render unto others the actions that they most desire", but rather "given that you are going to perform an action, perform that action in the way that best matches the way the other person is most comfortable with". It is not about the ethics of an action, but rather, how to behave in ways that are most receivable by other people.
The golden rule is great for matters of ethics (i.e. I shouldn't steal from you), but it can cause tension when we discuss communication behaviors.
This concept shows up in a few books and was made popular by Tony Alessandra.
* http://www.alessandra.com/abouttony/aboutpr.asp
* http://www.amazon.com/People-Smart-Powerful-Techniques-Encou...
* http://www.amazon.com/Personal-Styles-Effective-Performance-...