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Stop stressing, mate. Since just not giving a fuck doesn't seem like quite an option for you, I'd do this (and have done this).

1. Go through, spend maybe 45 minutes (15-30 would be better) collecting specific things that are relevant to "now," out of those buckets. Forgot an entire category of thing? Too bad, it isn't that important _now_.

2. Then put everything else not collected, (don't start going through the shit again) into a a tarball (or whatever archive format you want).

3. Put that tarball onto a USB drive (or a couple for piece of mind), untar it once to make sure it works right so you feel "secure."

4. Then, and this is the important part, DELETE EVERYTHING you collected in the tarball (delete emails, bookmarks, erry' thing).

The noise and weight of just seeing it all there can make everything seem insurmountable. In fact, the noise will constantly get in the way of what is important, thereby putting more between you and whats important, causing even more noise until the loop spirals to where you are now.

You'll feel like a new person afterwards, within a day or two you'll probably be more productive and less stressed out than you have been in weeks. The reason being, is most of (if not all of at this point for ya) that electronic weight is expectations no one remembers or wants filled.

And don't forget the peace of mind from having all those forgotten expectations safely tucked away on a thumb drive... just in case.

Right now all this baggage is only preventing you from improving your work, improving your relationships, and improving your life.

Good luck, friend.

P.S. Its fun to go back through the drives years later when you re-discover them (you'll likely never use the drive after a week or two) and think "holy shit, I cannot even remember why I gave a fuck about any of this" as well as salvage a few forgotten gems.



Not giving a fuck is the healthy choice


+1 but sometimes it's hard to realize that (the healthy choice), the steps I outlined will at least get one started in that direction. After enough times (for me it was like 1.5) of doing the aforementioned, I was rid of the burden.

I deactivated my Facebook like seven years ago (? maybe more), with the intent of being able to "reactivate" it. But, I haven't, and have no urge to... turning it off was like a breath of fresh air. It let me know just how surface level all our interactions are on things like Facebook. Reading about friends or people you care about, almost anonymously or as a voyeur, without interacting except for the occasional "like" or "me too, dawg" doesn't make for good relationships. It makes for a (truthfully, shit) facsimile of good/healthy relationships. When I see someone now I haven't seen in a long time, there are things to talk about. I can express genuine heartfelt interest in them and their lives. If I'd been using Facebook to get sideline views into their lives I'd have my own bullshit expectations (or others) cast on to that relationship... and for what? Literally, fucking nothing but anxiety.

Don't get me wrong in 2019 it's not so great not having a Facebook as I do miss quite a few events, but _hey_ at least when I'm there, I'm actually there.

Achievement Unlocked: Not Giving a Fuck Level ∞!




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