+1 but sometimes it's hard to realize that (the healthy choice), the steps I outlined will at least get one started in that direction. After enough times (for me it was like 1.5) of doing the aforementioned, I was rid of the burden.
I deactivated my Facebook like seven years ago (? maybe more), with the intent of being able to "reactivate" it. But, I haven't, and have no urge to... turning it off was like a breath of fresh air. It let me know just how surface level all our interactions are on things like Facebook. Reading about friends or people you care about, almost anonymously or as a voyeur, without interacting except for the occasional "like" or "me too, dawg" doesn't make for good relationships. It makes for a (truthfully, shit) facsimile of good/healthy relationships. When I see someone now I haven't seen in a long time, there are things to talk about. I can express genuine heartfelt interest in them and their lives. If I'd been using Facebook to get sideline views into their lives I'd have my own bullshit expectations (or others) cast on to that relationship... and for what? Literally, fucking nothing but anxiety.
Don't get me wrong in 2019 it's not so great not having a Facebook as I do miss quite a few events, but _hey_ at least when I'm there, I'm actually there.
